Deny myself? – Why?

Yeshua said to let our “Yes” be “Yes” and our “No” be “No” (Matthew 5:37). In context He was speaking of making religious vows, but we can take this a step further: Good is good; bad is bad (Isaiah 5:20). 

 To what do we say “Yes”? – everything good!  All the promises of God are “Yes” and “Amen” through Yeshua (II Corinthians 1:20). We are to think about every good and pure thing (Philippians 4:4-8). Through meditating on God’s promises we develop an optimistic attitude and are transformed in our minds (Rom 12:1-3). 

But we also have to say “No” to bad things. Evil comes from three sources: the World (social pressure); the Flesh (pride and lusts); the Devil (demonic spirits).  We say “No” to everything that leads to sin and death. 

Burying Our Flesh

Yeshua said, “Whoever desires to follow Me, must deny himself, take up his cross daily, and come after Me” – Luke 9:23.  Following Yeshua brings us into all of the glorious blessings of God. 

However, the path of following in His footsteps starts with: “deny yourself.”  That means saying “No” to our own selfish desires.  The Rabbis call this יצר הרע, yetzer hara’, the evil instinct.    


  1. Think how many of the Ten Commandments start with “Thou Shalt Not…”! 
  2. Psalm One starts with three “Does nots” – not walk in path of wicked; not stand in way of sinners, not sit in seat of mockers.  
  3. Yeshua’s great prayer of Gethsemane repeated over and over, “Not My will, but Yours…” (Matthew 26:37ff). 
  4. The last of the fruit of the Spirit is “self-control” (Galatians 5:22-23). 
  5. Part of becoming “partakers of the divine nature” is also self-control (II Peter 1:3-7).

Paul also spoke of “self” crucifixion: “crucify myself” (Galatians 2:20); “crucify the world” (Galatians 6:14); “crucify the flesh” (Galatians 5:24). This is not speaking in any way of self-flagellation or self-condemnation, but of saying “No” to evil influences, particularly our own sinful instincts. 

Self-denial is the opposite of self-condemnation; it is a work of grace by the Holy Spirit. “Now there is no condemnation to those who are in Messiah Yeshua” – Romans 8:1. Thank God, by the blood of Yeshua, we have been cleansed from all guilt (Hebrews 9:14, 10:1-3, 12:24). 

However, the same Holy Spirit which frees us from condemnation, also “puts to death” selfishness and lusts.  “If by the Spirit, you put to death the deeds of the body…” (Romans 8:13). In all the wonderful, positive verses about the work of the Holy Spirit, did we kind of “glide” past that verse? The Holy Spirit puts a halt to the works of the flesh.

From the Inside Out

Why is this quality of self-restraint so important? It has to do with our destiny as children of God to take dominion over the creation (Genesis 1:26-29). We are called to “rule and reign” together with Him (Romans 5:17; Revelation 5:10; 20:6). Self-restraint is actually governing ourselves. If you can rule yourself, you are ready to rule the world.

Proverbs 16:32 – Better is he who is slow-to-anger than a mighty man; and he who rules over his spirit than he who captures a city.  One has to be able to rule his own feelings and desires, before he can rule over more external things. Taking dominion over ourselves precedes taking dominion over God’s creation. This is an essential character quality to enable us to fulfill God’s highest purposes in our lives.

This article originally appeared on Revive Israel, February 27, 2019, and reposted with permission.