Influence of Violence in Media on Our Kids

We all know what it’s like to say no to our kids about many things that are “okay” in the world. No to Disney movies, no to most animated (horrible!) shows, no to wars, swords, guns, fights and the list goes on and on…

And at the same time, we all struggle to allow our kids a certain level of “fitting in” and be popular amongst their friends to some extent. Because nonetheless, we don’t want them to feel completely alienated in this world.

As You sent Me into the world, I also have sent them into the world. – John 17:18

Yeshua was sent to this world, he walked among sinners. He loved us while we were still sinners, but in the same time – He didn’t conform to this world.

And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God. – Romans 12:2

Yeshua want us to live in this world, but not to conform to it. Not to be like everyone else, but live a healthy pure life in Him. Yeshua stayed pure and perfect. Ok, don’t expect your child to be perfect. Please! No one is perfect. But still, we are able to guide them and teach them the difference between good and bad, right and wrong, and sometimes it comes in the form of saying ‘no’ to TV shows or games we feel are inappropriate for our faith.

So, here’s what happened in our home few days ago:
My boys, 9 & 7 years old have fallen in love with Star Wars. I’m not exaggerating, believe me!

So after consulting with a few people, we decided to allow them to watch it. At first everything seemed fine, but pretty soon things began escalating. A shout here, a scream there, a small hit here, a bad word, a kick, a push. And even though they are boys, they did those things a little too much. Why do I blame Star Wars for their behavior, you ask? Well, you tell me what the bad influence is when you hear: “I’ll destroy you and vanish you out of the Galaxy!”

I might add that my boys are well-behaved boys (well, most of the time), ha, ha, no really they are. They are polite, and kind and considerate, but they are BOYS. And their games became more and more violent as the weeks passed by. Eventually we decided to eliminate all Star Wars games and movies (not the original film, of course), as well as some of their Lego figures and see what happens.

Needless to say they didn’t like it at all.

But that wasn’t it, we also made them stop watching other violent shows like: Spiderman, Power Rangers, etc. I know what you’re thinking… It can’t be. It must be something else. Well, maybe. But all I know is that on day 2 of our ban on violent shows and toys, my boys were playing nicely together. They did have a fight earlier today, but they weren’t nearly as violent or mean to each other as they were before that.

It doesn’t end in that though. We had to talk to them and explain to them why they weren’t allowed to watch or play with those toys. And while one boy took it pretty well (the youngest), the oldest didn’t like it at all. He was very rude for about 20 seconds. But, when I told them it’s for their own good, and that we want to experiment, suddenly they were more willing to cooperate.

Once you detect a certain behavior that your child has that you don’t like or approve of, it doesn’t mean that you can say some magic words (well, we’re believers, most of us don’t like that magic stuff anyway!) or do something and within one day it’ll all be fine. Not at all.

My husband and I prayed about this before we realized it’s the violent shows that cause that behavior, and we needed guidance, we needed the Lord to show us how to handle it.

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. – Philippians 4:6-7

We also checked with the school, talked to some parents. You’re not alone in this. You don’t have to figure out everything. Kids don’t come with instruction book.

But for us believers, the blessing is huge. We DO have some sort of “manual” if you will. We have the Bible. We can read and hear from God as for what we need to do in certain situations, but that’s not all. When we read the Word, we get closer to Christ, and we become more like Him. And that’s how we find answers. We ask, and God who hears our prayers answers according to His will.

It shall come to pass That before they call, I will answer; And while they are still speaking, I will hear. – Isaiah 65:24

There is also no shame in consulting another parent, a counselor even. Bring your questions and concerns to the light. There’s nothing wrong in asking others for help. There are so many parents who are ashamed to say or do something. Don’t be. Bring it all to GOD in prayer. And talk to someone you trust, read about your situation online or in a book. We’re also here to answer questions, not because we know it all. But just to be there. To pray and to listen. To help you find an answer. We might be able to write about that very subject you need help with.

Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counselors there is safety. – Proverbs 11:14

Maybe it’s not something so series. Maybe it’s just a daily issue you are facing. Either way, let us know what it is YOU are dealing with, and how we can be of help.