Lasting Relationships

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How to build intentional faith communities and lasting relationships

Already in the late 1960s, sociologists and cultural analysts predicted the outcome of our individualistic, corporately driven modern society: fleeting relationships. People would be more and more lonely as they aged, leading to “future shock.”

Students in my graduate seminary wanted to counter this and to build “intentional community” where people pledged to live out a biblical community together in a long-term way unless genuinely called away by the Spirit. Acts 2:42 was the ideal, that followers of Yeshua shared life, resources, and support at the highest level; plus mutual accountability for growth in righteousness and holiness.

Personal experiences in those days reinforced my concerns. After leaving a charismatic church that went heretical, we sought a vibrant church community during our (Patty and me) year of engagement. Most places we visited were a disappointment, but we finally found one with good worship. I was in my last year of graduate school and would travel every weekend to see Patty. We were hoping to build relationships there, but it was very hard. One day, the announcement bulletin in the church noted that we would be meeting in small groups. As we left the sanctuary, I told the pastor I was excited about this, but he said it was not for long-term relationship-building but to discuss a building project!

One of the reasons I went into the ministry, instead of becoming a professor, was that I wanted to build the kind of community that I was NOT finding. In my first pastorate in Chicago, 1972-1977, we helped build such a community. Afterward, when Patty and I were called to leave, it was painful. People had identified with the message of covenant community! Forty-five of them lived within walking distance of one another and the fellowship was wonderful.

However, Yeshua promises that if we leave our close relationships for the sake of the Kingdom, we will indeed be given more. When we were called to move to the Washington DC area, we prayed God would bring fellow leaders who would build their lives together in Kingdom work and that these relationships would last a lifetime, with open sharing, mutual support, and accountability.

Would God answer this prayer? He did. We soon found a contingent of leaders who committed to one another and the Kingdom in a deep and long-term way. People explicitly came and said they wanted to build this way, the first being Asher Intrater (before he was even married) and Jerry and Jo Miller. Four decades later (!), a significant core of leaders going back to those days are still in committed relationships and serve together in Tikkun expressions. Asher wrote about how this works in his book Covenant Relationships. It has been amazing. And, of course, many dear, newer friends have joined in covenant with us – some 30 years ago, some 15 years ago, and some recently.

The goal of covenant relationships is supporting each other. It’s about shared accountability teamwork in mutual submission. At times, the covenant will be tested. Sometimes the disagreements are intense, but we work things out, as in a marriage, and we do not flee. We are committed to seeing love triumph.

We have been blessed to walk out an example of relational continuity in a world of fleeting relationships. Many of our younger leaders are walking in the same covenant relationships.

By God’s grace, it can be done.

This article originally appeared on Revive Israel, February 4, 2021, and reposted with permission.

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Dr. Daniel Juster, founder and director of Tikkun International, has been involved in the Messianic Jewish movement since 1972 and currently resides in Jerusalem, Israel, from where he serves and supports the Messianic movement worldwide. Dan was the founding president and general secretary of the Union of Messianic Jewish Congregations for 9 years, the senior pastor of Beth Messiah congregation for 22 years, and a co-founder of the Messiah Bible Institute in several nations. Dr. Juster serves on the board of Towards Jerusalem Council II, provides oversight to 15 congregations in the USA as well as overseeing emissaries in Israel and the Former Soviet Union. Daniel has authored about 20 books on topics ranging from theology, Israel and the Jewish people, eschatology, discipleship, and leadership.