The second reference to parents in the Ten Commandments describes the positive mechanism of receiving blessings from God through our parents.
Exodus 20:12 – Honor your father and your mother so that your days will be long upon the land.
Esteeming Our Parents
The way we receive blessings from our parents is simply to honor them. What goes up, comes down. When we honor our parents upwards, blessings come downwards. This includes long life, health, success and fulfillment of personal destiny.
Honor is a spiritual attitude. It places us in a position to receive. Honoring our parents neither means doing everything they say, nor letting them continue to hurt us, nor even agreeing with what they say. It does mean having a respectful attitude, speaking respectfully, and otherwise showing honor.
A prayer of parental honor might sound like this: “Heavenly Father, I thank you for my father and my mother. You designed them for me. I forgive them of any wrongs, and I receive through them all of the good things You planned for my life.”
An expression of honor to them might sound like this: “Mom and Dad, I thank you so much for being my parents. I appreciate you, love you and honor you. You are the best mom and dad in the whole world. Please bless me so that I can carry on the good things that God intends for my life.”
Since there are two channels (good and bad) and two parents (mom and dad), there are four areas to deal with.
- Forgiving your father
- Honoring your father
- Forgiving your mother
- Honoring your mother.
Do – Then Repeat as Necessary
In this way, the curses are cancelled and the blessings released. Of course, when dealing with parents, there are many levels to our relationship. So, we may need to repeat this process often, perhaps even daily, perhaps even seven times a day; perhaps even seven times seventy.
The process is important not only for young children, but for older children as well. It can continue after the parent has passed away. The spiritual dynamics are eternal. And the spiritual effects of setting this in right order are exponential.
This article originally appeared on Revive Israel, July 4, 2019, and reposted with permission.